• Are you feeling sorry for yourself? Do you feel like a victim? Do you feel anxious?
  
  
• Do you say yes when you mean to say no or do you say no when you mean to say yes?
  
  
• Do you have trouble deciding to do something and do you over-analyze instead of acting?
  
  
• Do you feel you care too much about what other people think or say about you?
  
  
• Do you feel fatigued or tired sometimes or most of the time?
  
  
• Do you feel like you are never at ease with that person or thing?
  
  
• Are you attracted to someone and still not able to talk to him or her?

If any of these or alike is familiar to you, the good news is that you can improve this state of mind and be in a much more empowering state

State of Mind

First, a definition of state of mind: "the mood or temperament you are in"

If you find yourself in a state that does not bring your best side, It is an attack on your truest identify. Think of it as a call to action.

A great state of mind doesn’t mean you are obnoxious, loud or overly excited. It doesn’t mean you feel great at the expense of others around you. It is a feeling you have when you are truly at peace with yourself and things around you. A state where nothing or very little bothers you; a state where you feel very confident in yourself (no pretense; pure honest confidence) you don’t feel hurt by what anyone says, does, said or did; a state where your mind and body feel vibrant (no pains and aches due to inactivity or illness), a state where you are not angry or dissatisfied, or being short or snapping at people. It's a state of mind where you are not suffering..

You don't have to have received or achieved something to be in a great state of mind. Many people, who seem to have a lot going for them, are still unhappy.

Here are the 5 proven steps to change strong negative subconscious habits

1. Be active, achieve lasting vibrancy

Your physiology changes how you feel, think and act – the gush of vibrancy, the clarity in your thoughts, ideas and the way you feel. What you experience after an exercise is a change in your bio-chemistry. You get a sudden boost of energy that lasts for a while and puts you in a position to take action. However, it only lasts so long.  But if you exercise very regularly and make this a habit, the great feeling you get becomes almost perpetual.

When you combine exercises with taking in essential nutrients and the right amount of rest, it wards off fatigue, illness, stress and many other health concerns that lead to low energy and weak state. Exercise at least 20mins regularly.

2. Focus on empowering things

In addition to exercising regularly, form a new habit of thinking positively. Don’t let external factors determine your state. Use being active to generate empowering ideas on how to solve the challenges you have. Whatever you focus on, you’ll feel and attract.

If you focus on negative things, you’ll feel and act in negative terms.

The more you feel and act in a certain way regularly, the more it becomes a habit that’ll take more work to get rid of. Stop focusing on the wrong things. Snap out of it. Being active and eat what's good for your body.

3. Be thankful

When you are active and you focus on the right things, and you are purposefully thankful for all the things you are grateful for, you feel alive and in a great state.

Why would you not be grateful about your heart that beats 60-100 times per minute (without you even doing much to deserve this).  Keeping your focus on feeling upset about what someone did or said to you or about the things you don’t have or that you’ve lost is wasted energy. If you leave your burdens to the supernatural intelligence that's keeping your heart and organs function, and you are truly grateful, you’ll be rewarded.

Think about it. If you thank someone for giving you something, you are likely to get more of it. If you don’t thank the person who gave you something and all you do is complain or focus on what’s wrong, they’ll likely take it back from you or stop giving you more because you don’t appreciate it.

Ideally this should be the first item on this list. However, if you lacked the strength to genuinely do so, then put myself in a great state first through exercises.

4. Take Responsibility

If you cultivate the habit of taking full responsibility for your action and inaction, and fulfilling the first three habits above, your mental state of mind will improve every day.

Don’t blame people or situations for your current position in life. You are where you are so you can learn and grow.

If you complain and point the fingers regularly, it becomes a habit that’s not helping your state of mind; it takes away your power.

Life may not seem fair sometimes and it isn’t simply black and white. It is not a straight-line either. It is a journey filled with numerous experiences that are geared to shaping who we become. You’ve got to ask yourself, will blame help me become who I really would like to be or will taking responsibility and taking action achieve this?

5. Live for others as well

The final habit you must cultivate is to live life not just for yourself. The moments that I have felt happiest and limitless the most are moments where I’ve helped others.

Give people your time, your money, your love, your passion or whatever. Some things are easier to give than others; the harder they are to give, the more rewarding it becomes. Add value to people’s lives.

People are people and will sometimes take advantage of your generosity; you must be careful and vigilant and be able to discern this. However, when you give and add value to others you expand your mental state and the experience open doors for replenishment.

One of the biggest secrets to living a fulfilled life is through giving to others and not simply thinking about oneself all the time. Imagine for a second, what life would be today if the amenities and things you enjoy were created by people who only thought of themselves.

Make these five key steps a habit. Engage in all for a period of 30 days so they become part of you. For a perpetual effect, don’t stop doing these things.